Hi Friends!
Welcome to Post #3, of the 14 Days of Valentine's Day Series. It is my hope that you've been getting the "inside scoop" into this single-gluten free gal's brain about this February "Love-birds" holiday. (On another note, I recently came across a recipe for gluten and dairy free banana bread that I am very eager to try!)
While driving home from work today, I had an epiphany. I realized that women all go for certain "types" of men. Some of them are non-committal, and, as women, we may feel the need to try and "fix" someone who may not necessarily know that he has a problem or want to change for that matter. Sometimes, women find the "mystery" of a guy very attractive. But, it's amazing to me that, sometimes, this "mystery" may be insignificant to the reality of the person who is in front of you. Other times, women don't even realize that a guy is potentially interested in her because we are so accustomed to be on alert for the "perfect guy," that we miss Jeopardy's "daily double," so to speak; the guy who is standing right in front of us.
I feel that social media (of various types and forms), along with the advances of technology, are both positively and negatively affecting women's view of men, particularly the women who find themselves in situations like I do, single for years, especially during this season of love and hearts, mixed with flowers and chocolates. In my opinion, women are negatively affected by social media's stance, perspective, and view on men because it portrays them in a slanted light (almost like skylights), and captures only a minute moment in the daily 24 hour life-of-a-guy. However, when I look at a picture of a guy and girl clearly in love, I am reminded that this sort of love exists, the kind that wraps its arms around its lover and hangs on for eternity. And, it is this love that makes me hopeful for my future, that someday, I may have the opportunity to experience that kind of radical and selfless love, too.
With this commitment of love and promising to be "there" for another person, (wherever "there" is for you), essentially comes the "mystery." Now, I am partial to the guy who is a little mysterious, as you could say, but I am thinking of the word "mystery" in a slightly different context here. This "mystery" occurs when two people have committed themselves to each other with the future unknown. Now, none of us, regardless of our faith backgrounds, know what the future holds. We can attempt to try and "control" it, but even with our best intentions, our efforts fail. With this mystery of the future, comes an equally important "uncertainty." When these two, "mystery" and "uncertainty" meet and join hands, they are committing themselves to Robert Frost's "road less traveled."
It is my hope to find this kind of love someday. It is my hope to experience this kind of love someday. It is my dream to meet a guy who will remind me that my efforts to try and "control" and "map out" and "plan my life" for even the next day or the next week, is fine and dandy, but to also have him balance me out; that is, to encourage me that it's okay to essentially "throw the map out the window and see where you go."
Because sometimes, the journey is just as memorable as the destination.
cheers.
