Buy the Mauve Eyeglasses

In some parts of my life, it feels like I am starting over again. I am a freshman in college, getting acquainted with my fellow classmates, the campus, student life, and the like.

I feel that I am in a learning phase. I have a new job, in a new place, with new people, with new responsibilities. I am shifting from a woman whose single, to one who is looking for a man who is committed and faith -driven. My life is in a different season. Perhaps, if I had to pick a season that my life most resembles at this moment in time, I would choose spring. I select this option for the fact that at this point in my life, I am experiencing old things in a new way. I am experiencing these new things with a mindset and perspective that I didn't necessarily have before nor did I work on trying to get used to.

For example, I made an appointment with my eye doctor a couple of weeks ago. When he checked my eyes, he told me that they had changed significantly. Thus, my need for new lenses. Now, in the past when my eyes have changed, I have always kept the same pair of frames and just changed the lenses. It was more cost-effective for me and I got really comfortable and used to the frames that I had. But sitting in my eye doctor's office, I felt the need to change my frames, too.

So, the hunt for new frames began. The lady at the eye doctor's helped me to find some frames that I was typically used to in the form of size, shape, and color. She placed all of the frames that I really liked on a small wooden table so that I could go back and try them all on again. I finished browsing and made my way to the table. I sat down and began the long processing of weeding out the frames that just "caught my eye" to those that helped to define and enhance who I am.

I finally settled on two pairs that I equally liked. One was a mauve color that shown red in the light, and the other was a gold, more distinguished, womanly color. Both were small, rectangular frames, something that I was not used to.

The lady at the doctor's saw my smile when I tried on the mauve colored glasses. She said I looked "young and hip" and that the gold rimmed ones made me look more womanly. I went back and forth between these two frames, looking at myself in the mirror, the way a young child does. This went on for about about 20 minutes. I wanted something that would go with my outfits, yet also something that helped to identify the "independent" me.

Then the lady at the eye doctor's said something very profound that really went beyond the "physical" realm of me purchasing new frames. She said: "The mauve ones are more risky and the gold ones are safe. You usually go with the 'safe' eyeglasses. Sometimes, you've got to take a risk."

This small interaction spoke to me so much, because it's so true. I usually, (more often than not) go for the "safe route" all the time. But this summer, I've learned so much about taking risks that are healthy and will promote a positive lifestyle and trying new things. I am so grateful for my friends who have played a part in advancing this area of my life. However, I know that there is still work to be done in me. I am reminded that when it comes to any sort of romantic interest, I am always the first one to put barriers up all around myself - thus blocking off my accessibility from potential guys, friendships, and a future relationship. This is something that I've slowly started to work on. And, I feel that equally as important is the ability to identify this barrier that I've created and to name it. This is a huge step towards change. So, I know that progress is being made, albeit, slowly.

Yet, I do not want this struggle to hinder me from a relationship with a guy, but rather, I want a guy who will accept me for who I am and this particular thing that I struggle with from the start. I want a man who will encourage me to go deeper in my walk with God, and who is strong and firm in his faith. I want a man who will challenge me and who will call me out on things that I will fail at. I want a man who will appreciate my job and the passion that I find in waking up every morning to teach my students. Finally, I want a man who will be able to lead a family in the way, the truth, and the life of Jesus.

In conclusion, relationships (a future romantic one) are just one part of my life that I want to work on. I now see that the interaction with the lady at the eyeglasses store opened the door for me to identify an area in spring that I long to experience blossom.

I am ready to walk in the store and actually pick up, try on, and purchase the mauve-colored eyeglasses. I humbly declare that I am ready to take that risk of wearing them and seeing (no pun intended) where it takes me. Life is all about risks, and we have to allow ourselves time and trust to try them on. I am excited to wear these new glasses (figuratively speaking, of course) and observing the changes that I am a part of when I allow myself to take a risk.